releasing with love

Sometimes these articles just come to me like little gifts from heaven.  Other times I know what I need to write about because it’s what I’m inspired to say to every client who calls me for a session.  It’s perfectly obvious.  So, I sit down on my balcony with my laptop and a cup of tea and just let the words flow.

Then there are those times I get so brutally smacked upside the head with something that has to be written, if only for my own sake, that I am forced to turn off the phone, shut myself in and let it come through as it (in the words of the Sufi poet Rumi) violently sweeps my house empty of its furniture.

This is one of those articles.

Of course, it wouldn’t have been if only I had heeded those cute little angels bearing gifts from heaven.  Or if I’d stopped for a moment to wonder why I found myself saying the same thing over and over again to one client after another.

But isn’t that just part of being human, this wanting what we want, when we want it?  This thinking that a certain thing has to happen in a certain way for us to be happy?  This feeling of needing to control and shape the outcome of a situation, if only in our minds?

A couple of months ago I wrote an article about releasing those things we no longer need in order to make room for the things we have asked for. 

In that article, The Gift of Release, I focused mainly on the letting go of a job and using the release ceremony to set in motion the process of that release.

In this article, I want to focus primarily on releasing a person or relationship, although, as in the previous article, the process I share here can be applied to a job or any other circumstance or feeling you would like to release.

Sometimes we think we know, in our minds or in our hearts, what needs to happen in a relationship or in the life of another person.  Oftentimes we think we know better than the other person does.  And whether or not that is true, this is where we run into trouble. 

Or maybe it’s just me.

If you’re worrying about someone who seems to be on the wrong path or if you’re wanting a relationship with someone who’s not cooperating, or offering you the type of relationship you want, or even if you’re having problems with a 'difficult person' at work, the process I offer today will be helpful.

And whether you’re daydreaming, fuming or fretting about someone, what your soul really wants is for you to be at peace.

The release meditation is a process I’ve shared with many, if not most of you.  It is one of my favorite processes.  It has brought me, and many clients I’ve had the privilege of working with, a deeper sense of inner peace.

And more often than not, it actually brings significant changes in the external world, and often the other person.  Although it is important to stress here that the process must begin, as all change must begin, with a realization and an acceptance of what is.  And it must be done, not with the hope of changing the external circumstances or the other person, but with an intention to be at peace regardless of what seems to be happening. The release meditation is a simple process that can be done in just a few minutes.  If you meditate regularly, it can be added to your morning and/or evening meditation.

Sit quietly with your eyes closed and your back straight.  Focus on your breathing, inflating your belly with every inhalation and deflating on each exhalation.  Imagine a circle of light opening about 4 feet above your head and enclosing your body in white light.  Take a few more deep breaths.  When you feel the presence of the light around you, imagine the other person in front of you, as clearly as possible.  See this person surrounded by light.  Then imagine your heart chakra, in the center of your chest, opening.  Imagine a ray of white (or gold or pink) light flowing from your heart to the other person.  Imagine the light dissolving his/her face into the heavens. 

As you do this, you can silently say something like 'I send love and light to you.  I bless you and release you.'  But it is not necessary to say anything.  The magic happens anyway.

Do this process at least once a day for 30-45 days.  Be willing to go even longer.

A good intention to have in doing this process is the intention to convert your love (or dislike or hate, whatever it is) into unconditional love.  Be patient with the process, this could take some time.

As with the release ceremony, the primary concern I hear from clients is 'But I don’t want him/her to go away.'  The process does not push a person away, unless that is for the highest good.  It is all about the highest good, yours and the other person’s.  It purifies your intention in regards to that person.  It is an act of detachment and surrender.  It connects you to the source of peace, love and joy.  It can (and will) set miracles in motion.

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If you would like to start with the release ceremony, see my previous article The Gift of Release.

If you need further assistance, please give me a call at (619) 275-1731.