Noticing and non-judgement

Most of you who know me and who have had relatively recent (within the past 2-3 years) sessions with me know that I am a big proponent of noticing.  Noticing is consciousness, and as such, it contains all the elements of the Inner Circle:  peace, love and joy.

An important part of being able to create the life you want is knowing what you prefer.  And of course, the other side of this is knowing what you’d prefer not to have, be, do and experience.  And this is where many people get in trouble with the law of attraction.  They know exactly what they don’t want, in fact they know it better than what they do want.  Many, if not most people are living in a vibration of lack because they continually focus on what they don’t want.

This is all too easy to do, especially when you’re smack-dab in the middle of a job you don’t want or an income level you don’t want, or if you’re driving around a car that is not exactly what you’d prefer.

The problem here is not that you are noticing these things—it’s only natural to notice that you would prefer something different, but that there is judgment attached to your experience of these things.

I hear it all the time.  People tell me about their current unsatisfactory conditions using words like “bad”, “terrible” and “sucks.”  That’s a lot of creative energy focused on the experience or thing being described.  I have seen people “dwell” in jobs they intensely dislike for years by doing this.

I also hear people making small problems and stresses bigger by “awfulizing” them.  This simply means naming something awful or horrible (or your own personal favorite expletive) when it’s really just a slight bother or inconvenience (which may even have a lesson, a message or even the proverbial silver lining attached).  I’ll admit I find myself doing this on occasion, particularly in traffic or when I’m lost or running late.

Judgment is sometimes a hard thing to notice yourself doing, especially at first.  It’s so prevalent.  Want proof?  Just turn on your TV or radio or call a friend and inquire about their day at work.

But if you are committed to improving the quality of your life experience and what you attract, a great exercise would be to commit to a 30-day period of noticing your judgments.  Notice both “good” and “bad” judgments.  Then start to ask yourself why you are prone to label one experience one way and one the other.  Ask yourself “would that really be bad?” or “why would this be better?”

Doing this acts as a sort of “detox” for your energy.  Just as it can be healthy to periodically flush out toxins one absorbs from just living in the world, eating, drinking and breathing normally, our thought systems can also benefit from cleansing.  Noticing is an effective way to do this.

Several interesting things happen when you question your own judgments.  Eventually, you begin to detach from outcomes.  You open a door to more and more possibility.  You let go of the apparent need to control.  And by so doing, those things you no longer need or want begin to loosen their grip on you, because you’ve loosened your grip on them. 

The Universe—which is just a fancy name for your higher consciousness—knows what you prefer and what you’d prefer to experience less of.  And as you notice judgment, you naturally begin to relinquish it.  From this place, you are free to give more energy and attention to what you do prefer than what you don’t.  And that is when the law of attraction begins to work its magic in your life!

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