WHEN to do the counter-intuitive thing

 
I’m going to start this article with a contradiction. 

If you’re really listening to your intuition, it’s very likely telling you to do the “counter-intuitive” thing.

That is, if you are someone who desires expansion in your life—whether you would like to enjoy a fuller, more rewarding career, more financial abundance, richer relationships, or all of the above and more…

...and I’m betting you are that type of person (since you’re still reading this article).

And when you’re that type of person, sometimes it pays to act in a way that defies habit, emotion, logic and conventional wisdom.  And though the word counter-intuitive is somewhat of a misnomer, it can feel as if you’re going against your instincts because the power and pull of the above-mentioned ‘wisdoms’ are so strong.

Let me give you an example.  Imagine someone you know has created the experience of being “short on money.”  It’s a common creation, one that most of us are familiar with to some degree.  Conventional wisdom, coupled with survival fear dictates that one “tighten one’s belt” to reduce outgoing funds.  This is an act of contraction.  And if this is the individual’s primary focus, the law of attraction will certainly get to work offering up more and more constricting experiences to match the feeling of that focus.

The ‘counter-intuitive’ thing to do in this case would be to expand, not contract at this crucial moment, by actually looking for something to invest in that could invite expansion into one’s life and experience.

I know that in my own experience, I’ve never moved boldly forward by tightening my belt.  In fact, the actions that have always brought about my biggest income increases have been acts of expansion.  Moving from a shared home to my own apartment and more than doubling my rent in the process brought expansion.  Then, a short time later, purchasing my own home, more than doubling ‘expenses’ again, brought more expansion-- even though I didn’t know exactly how the money would come.

Moving away from a job and into my own business brought expansion, as did joining a networking group (investment of time and money) and renting an office this year.  And taking the courses and workshops I am drawn to always produces expansion, one way or another.

So for me, when conventional wisdom tells me to contract, the question becomes “How can I expand.”  To take this even further, I would add “How can I take more leaps of faith?” 

To me, this is not counter-intuitive at all (although sometimes it seems downright un-Capricornian).

Another area in which I see people contract is in the area of relationships.  Oftentimes, when a client meets a new potential partner she is excited about, she immediately begins to focus on this person in both her thoughts and actions, closing out other possibilities.  Even if her suitor was the one who initiated the head-first plunge into relationship, eventually he feels the psychic “pinch” of her hopes and attentions.  From this point on, things usually do not go well.

Similarly, if  you’re job-searching and you find a postion to interview for that seems like the perfect match, the best thing to do is to challenge yourself to find 3 more opportunities as good or better.  This not only helps you detach from the first opportunity—and detachment is key in the creation process—but it makes you more attractive to the expansion you seek, because like attracts like.

So what is counter-intuitive (or rather counter-habitual/emotional/logical) here is that expansion requires us to be different—and consequently do differently—than we have been and done in the past in order to create the expansive lives we desire.

Is it time to change the results you’ve been attracting into your experience?  I’ve designed my Attraction Plan Session to support you in expanding into the person you want to be and living the life you’re meant to live.  Give me a call at (619) 275-1731.